Update backward extremity docs to make it clear that it does not indicate...

Update backward extremity docs to make it clear that it does not indicate whether we have fetched an events' `prev_events` (#11469)

Spawning from https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/pull/9445#discussion_r758958181



Co-authored-by: Richard van der Hoff <1389908+richvdh@users.noreply.github.com>

changelog.d/11469.doc

+Update section about backward extremities in the room DAG concepts doc to correct the misconception about backward extremities indicating whether we have fetched an events' `prev_events`.

docs/development/room-dag-concepts.md

@@ -38,16 +38,15 @@ Most-recent-in-time events in the DAG which are not referenced by any other even
 The forward extremities of a room are used as the `prev_events` when the next event is sent.
 
 
-## Backwards extremity
+## Backward extremity
 
 The current marker of where we have backfilled up to and will generally be the
-oldest-in-time events we know of in the DAG.
+`prev_events` of the oldest-in-time events we have in the DAG. This gives a starting point when
+backfilling history.
 
-This is an event where we haven't fetched all of the `prev_events` for.
-
-Once we have fetched all of its `prev_events`, it's unmarked as a backwards
-extremity (although we may have formed new backwards extremities from the prev
-events during the backfilling process).
+When we persist a non-outlier event, we clear it as a backward extremity and set
+all of its `prev_events` as the new backward extremities if they aren't already
+persisted in the `events` table.
 
 
 ## Outliers
@@ -56,8 +55,7 @@ We mark an event as an `outlier` when we haven't figured out the state for the
 room at that point in the DAG yet.
 
 We won't *necessarily* have the `prev_events` of an `outlier` in the database,
-but it's entirely possible that we *might*. The status of whether we have all of
-the `prev_events` is marked as a [backwards extremity](#backwards-extremity).
+but it's entirely possible that we *might*.
 
 For example, when we fetch the event auth chain or state for a given event, we
 mark all of those claimed auth events as outliers because we haven't done the