Support "identifier" dicts in UIA (#8848)

The spec requires synapse to support `identifier` dicts for `m.login.password`
user-interactive auth, which it did not (instead, it required an undocumented
`user` parameter.)

To fix this properly, we need to pull the code that interprets `identifier`
into `AuthHandler.validate_login` so that it can be called from the UIA code.

Fixes #5665.