Part of #9744

Removes all redundant `# -*- coding: utf-8 -*-` lines from files, as python 3 automatically reads source code as utf-8 now.

`Signed-off-by: Jonathan de Jong <jonathan@automatia.nl&gt;`>

 - Update black version to the latest
 - Run black auto formatting over the codebase
    - Run autoformatting according to [`docs/code_style.md
`](https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/blob/80d6dc9783aa80886a133756028984dbf8920168/docs/code_style.md)
 - Update `code_style.md` docs around installing black to use the correct version

This is done by creating a custom `RedisFactory` subclass that
periodically pings all connections in its pool.

We also ensure that the `replyTimeout` param is non-null, so that we
timeout waiting for the reply to those pings (and thus triggering a
reconnect).

This expands the current shadow-banning feature to be usable via
the admin API and adds documentation for it.

A shadow-banned users receives successful responses to their
client-server API requests, but the events are not propagated into rooms.

Shadow-banning a user should be used as a tool of last resort and may lead
to confusing or broken behaviour for the client.

We were running some linters on some files and some on others. Extract a common
setting and use it everywhere.

This seemed to entail dragging in a type stub for SortedList.

I'm going to be doing more stuff synchronously, and I don't want to lose the
CPU metrics down the sofa.

We forgot to set the password on the subscriber connection, as well as
not calling super methods for overridden connectionMade/connectionLost
functions.

First some background: StreamChangeCache is used to keep track of what "entities" have 
changed since a given stream ID. So for example, we might use it to keep track of when the last
to-device message for a given user was received [1], and hence whether we need to pull any to-device messages from the database on a sync [2].

Now, it turns out that StreamChangeCache didn't support more than one thing being changed at
a given stream_id (this was part of the problem with #7206). However, it's entirely valid to send
to-device messages to more than one user at a time.

As it turns out, this did in fact work, because *some* methods of StreamChangeCache coped
ok with having multiple things changing on the same stream ID, and it seems we never actually
use the methods which don't work on the stream change caches where we allow multiple
changes at the same stream ID. But that feels horribly fragile, hence: let's update
StreamChangeCache to properly support this, and add some typing and some more tests while
we're at it.

[1]: https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/blob/release-v1.12.3/synapse/storage/data_stores/main/deviceinbox.py#L301
[2]: https://github.com/matrix-org/synapse/blob/release-v1.12.3/synapse/storage/data_stores/main/deviceinbox.py#L47-L51

This is configured via the `redis` config options.