Speed up get_current_state_ids

Using _simple_select_list is fairly expensive for functions that return
a lot of rows and/or get called a lot. (This is because it carefully
constructs a list of dicts).

get_current_state_ids gets called a lot on startup and e.g. when the IRC
bridge decided to send tonnes of joins/leaves (as it invalidates the
cache). We therefore replace it with a custon txn function that builds
up the final result dict without building up and intermediate
representation.