add conduwuit community code of conduct

this is a code of conduct that the moderation team made up,
specific to conduwuit's community spaces such as the matrix rooms.

the matrix foundation and contributor's covenant still apply, but
having conduwuit-specific additional guidelines help

Signed-off-by: strawberry <strawberry@puppygock.gay>

docs/SUMMARY.md

@@ -17,3 +17,4 @@ # Summary
     - [Contributing](contributing.md)
     - [Testing](development/testing.md)
     - [Hot Reloading ("Live" Development)](development/hot_reload.md)
+- [conduwuit Community Code of Conduct](conduwuit_coc.md)

docs/conduwuit_coc.md

+This page serves as a referenceable link to conduwuit's Code of Conduct for the Matrix rooms and any further community spaces related to conduwuit.
+
+# Conduwuit Community Code of Conduct
+
+Welcome to the Conduwuit community! We’re excited to have you here. This space is dedicated to fostering a positive, supportive, and inclusive environment for everyone. Here are our guidelines to help maintain the welcoming atmosphere that sets Conduwuit apart.
+
+For the foundational rules, please refer to the [Matrix.org Code of Conduct](https://matrix.org/legal/code-of-conduct/) and the [Contributor's Covenant](https://github.com/girlbossceo/conduwuit/blob/main/CODE_OF_CONDUCT.md). Below are additional guidelines specific to the Conduwuit community.
+
+## Our Values and Guidelines
+
+1. **Respect and Inclusivity**: We are committed to maintaining a community where everyone feels safe and respected. Discrimination, harassment, or hate speech of any kind will not be tolerated. Recognise that each community member experiences the world differently based on their past experiences, background, and identity. Share your own experiences and be open to learning about others' diverse perspectives.
+
+2. **Positivity and Constructiveness**: Engage in constructive discussions and support each other. If you are feeling angry, negative, or aggressive, take a break until you can participate in a positive and constructive manner. Process intense feelings with a friend or in a private setting before engaging in community conversations to help maintain a supportive and focused environment.
+
+3. **Clarity and Understanding**: We understand that our community includes neurodivergent individuals and those who may not appreciate sarcasm or subtlety. Communicate clearly and kindly, avoiding sarcasm and ensuring your messages are easily understood by all. Additionally, avoid putting the burden of education on marginalized groups by doing your own research before asking for explanations.
+
+4. **Be Open to Inclusivity**: Actively engage in conversations about making our community more inclusive. Report discriminatory behaviour to the moderators and be open to constructive critiques that aim to improve our community. Understand that discussing discrimination and negative experiences can be emotionally taxing, so focus on the message rather than critiquing the tone used.
+
+5. **Commit to Inclusivity**: Building an inclusive community requires time, energy, and resources. Recognise that addressing discrimination and bias is an ongoing process that necessitates commitment and action from all community members.
+
+## Community Spaces
+
+This Code of Conduct applies to the entire [Conduwuit Space](https://matrix.to/#/#conduwuit-space:puppygock.gay) and its rooms:
+
+### [Conduwuit](https://matrix.to/#/#conduwuit:puppygock.gay)
+
+This room is for support and discussions about Conduwuit. Ask questions, share insights, and help each other out.
+
+### [Conduwuit Offtopic](https://matrix.to/#/#conduwuit-offtopic:girlboss.ceo)
+
+For off-topic community conversations about any subject. While this room allows for a wide range of topics, the same CoC applies. Keep discussions respectful and inclusive, and avoid divisive subjects like country/world politics. General topics, such as world events, are welcome as long as they follow the CoC.
+
+### [Conduwuit Development](https://matrix.to/#/#conduwuit-dev:puppygock.gay)
+
+This room is dedicated to discussing active development of Conduwuit. Posting requires an elevated power level, which can be requested in one of the other rooms. Use this space to collaborate and innovate.
+
+## Enforcement
+
+We have a zero-tolerance policy for violations of this Code of Conduct. If someone’s behavior makes you uncomfortable, please report it to the moderators. Actions we may take include:
+
+1. **Warning**: A warning given directly in the room or via a private message from the moderators, identifying the violation and requesting corrective action.
+2. **Kick or Ban**: Egregious behavior may result in an immediate kick or ban to protect other community members. Bans are considered permanent and will only be reversed in exceptional circumstances after proven good behaviour.
+
+Together, let’s build a community where everyone feels valued and respected.
+
+- The Conduwuit Moderation Team