* Request partial joins by default

This is a little sloppy, but we are trying to gain confidence in faster
joins in the upcoming RC.

Admins can still opt out by adding the following to their Synapse
config:

```yaml
experimental:
    faster_joins: false
```

We may revert this change before the release proper, depending on how
testing in the wild goes.

* Changelog

* Try to fix the backfill test failures

* Upgrade notes

* Postgres compat?